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Old Feb 18, 2018, 07:32 PM
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Originally Posted by tecomsin View Post
At the moment my meaning in life is found in the life of my son who recently graduated and is job hunting now at my sister's house but he refuses to talk to me.
I want to give you some insight from someone who was in your son's shoes. The above statement sounds super smothering to me. He may feel like you are trying to vicariously live through him, and, naturally, he wants his experiences to be his own.

So maybe take a step back, change up your approach. Give him some space, and the next text or phone call you send, instead of asking him specifically about what you want to know about, just ask him generally how he is doing, what he's up to, if he has any fun plans coming up, and let him guide what he wants to tell you.

There comes a certain time in life when children don't tell their parents everything. Your son seems to be trying to exert independence. I feel certain if you give him space and allow him to tell you, versus you asking, that he will open up and share with you again.

I know it's hard not to smother when you care so much and are obviously so proud of your son. But you gotta let him fly the nest.

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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.

Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien

Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
Thanks for this!
tecomsin