We have not tried it. My H has mentioned it a couple of times during fights (not recent ones) but always has the caveot that the counseling is for me--that I am the one with the problem. Whenever I do not tell him what I think/ keep my mouth shut -- he feels like we are getting along marvelously! I get a lot of positive reinforcement when I try to be the person he wants rather than expressing how I really feel.

I have been tracking my progress through journaling, posting here, PMs and other writing. I have only come to realize what my problem is because of all the writing I have done since my attempt. Writing has been my therapy. I cannot afford to go to therapy enough (I am so twisted I would have to go everyday) to fix myself. I need to spend my money else where. Thankfully, PC is free!!