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Originally Posted by DP_2017
there will be a lot of back and forth with emotions in therapy. crying is a good step in a way, but yes it can make you feel more distant or whatever.
i also struggle with crying, i cried for the first time after 8 months in.... i was lucky though because he held me and let me cry on his shoulder, which was crazy powerful moment for me.... i haven't been able to cry since though, i do my shutting down habit again
actually i think maybe asking her for ways to help you keep the connection might help you. maybe you can go more often? outside contact? have a book she can loan you or something like that? it does change though, there are days during the week my connection seems less and then its back. also try journaling.
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OMG that would feel so awkward.................but then again I am about 15 yrs older then they are.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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