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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
This post was actually triggered by another incident/confrontation at home yesterday/last night. It is something that is personal (and involves more than just me--I don't feel right discussing details) but is something that is a consistent trigger for me. We did discuss it this morning. My H said (paraphrasing the meaning), it is going to be my way or I am going (implying divorce separation). What do I do? I propose delaying what he proposes we do. It is not in my nature to disagree/ be confrontational. I suppose I do not always hide how I feel but I sugar coat everything rather than being completely frank.  |
He said it's his way or he leaves????? That is fundamentally not right and not OK. A truly loving relationships is a two-way street, always!!! Both partners need to respect the other's need to be heard and respected. It seems he does not allow you to be heard and respected.
Hon, I would think twice about staying with this controlling H of yours. This is very controlling behavior. Abuse is always about control. That is very manipulative on his part.. he is not giving you a voice in this relationship. I wouldn't want to stay if it were me, but I understand how hard that can be after 30 years of marriage. (((Hugs)))