I don’t have any answers for you, sorry, but maybe just some thoughts on the matter & know I’m here listening.
If you can step back & look at this without emotions it might help.

It sounds like your father is being passive aggressive to get you to stay bec, well why not? You need him & what’s provided but he knows this & uses this to his advantage. He will be taken care of by you. So in his mind, why should he try to help you flourish bec if you do, he loses you.
So the negative comments & thoughts he provides to keep you down, well they’re working. It’s a win win situation for him.
So you might wanto try to turn his crap off. If you look at his reasoning for making you feel bad, it’s not bec you’re dumb or anything; it’s bec it keeps you trapped there. So it might help if you can view this undercurrent of submission he wants from you bec it serves him well.
Break your thinking pattern.

So how did your other sibs break away? I hear you speak of your brothers. Any sisters get away? I’ve realizing my own family that my father’s Mediterranean decent & ethics have taught him to value males over females. My brothers were taught a great deal more about finances & living on their own than us girls bec, according to this philosophy, females were meant to get married & have babies. Now if I’d say this to my father he’d deny every stitch of this, but the values taught were there & I followed along.
If one would look at my sibs it’s funny that the women in my family all have failed marriages yet the males don’t. I’m sure this isn’t the sole reason but it can add to the mix.
What do you think?

So it sounds like you need financial independence & that means a job. Have you looked for a job that might include housing? If you’re willing to move, but you said you have animals. Just an idea. Or a job with hours that are totally different from your families hours so that you don’t run into them or have to socialize with them.
You need a game plan & to take small steps to move yourself out from this power struggle.
I agree with the above too about a domestic crisis center & asking for help. Never hurts to ask & if they can’t help they might be able to give you some leads to others that can help.
Wish you the best & keep posting!