well kind of have that issue. the only thing different is my hubby can get an erection. it is just few and far between the sex. he enjoys it when we do but like I said. few and far between. I think at 40 though alot of guys go thru small periods of feeling old. they doubt themselves and if they have an erection that goes away for no apparent reason it kills their confidence. try some sexy music and lingerie. you know the full monty for a night.