a friend's husband was passionate about his music job as musical director of a church. He made no money. Popped out two kids with his wife. When he was never around *because of his so important job* she divorced him. Wait for it... she now has to pay him Alimony. I always felt she married and have kids due to pressure from parents (her family is very religious).

But I just don't see any human over 25 who can legitimately be passionate about music. That is a red flag. But mostly the answers are things that IMHO people think they need to say.

I really don't know if e-harmony is legit. So far all my "matches" are not really matches. I don't think I have anything in common with them.