As for you laying out the money for everything with her. I’m old-school traditional about the man paying. I have boys and taught them to always offer to pay. So you spent your money on a woman, hoping for love to continue.

If you laid out more than you should have for your own use and now grad school is put off, you didn’t use your best judgment.

So, I say just write off the money. Maybe she intentionally used you for it, maybe not.

Next time be smarter not to over extend yourself.

I know you are hurting. Break ups are hard.