I have ALWAYS been a fighter at home with my parents & in my marriage from the very beginning & it IS NOT a good habbit to grt into either. A middle ground is best but I understand why I did it & would do it over just with better diplimstic fighting skills.

Bith my parents & my H had/have minds that didn't function normally & they would get things in their mind & insist they were right when anyone observing them knew they were no where close to reality or say the reality in only hslf light. Even as a yiung kid I couldn't tolerate that crap when I knew it was wrong so I confronted it every time. It didn't change because of the way thrir brains function but at least I didn't silently listen to their crap & let them think they were being agreed with. My H actually commented that fighting with me was pointless because I was always proved right in the long run.....it didn't stop the fights or even make him think through whst he said before opening his mouth. I found that education or lack of it doesn't make sny difference with brains that function thst way.

Honestly divorce is a blessing in my situation & even thkugh I loved my parents, the stress level lessened immensly after their deaths.

It is miserable to fight then again miserable not to express yourself in a very difficult relationship... some relationships are just lose/lose no matter what.