Your husband knows he can say certain things to you. How about thinking about something you could say to him when he throws out the ' my way or the highway ' that he would expect from you. Practice before you say it for when the opportunity comes up, because it sounds like it will, again and again. People who know they can, aren't ready for a calm and direct response that shows them the other person knows they should,'t be treated the way they are. Not knowing your support system, only you can decide how much you can say, and when.