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Old Feb 20, 2018, 04:40 AM
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Originally Posted by crushed_soul View Post
A many thanks for your post and question.

Currently, I am doing nothing and have not attempted anything since we last spoke one month ago; however, after she dumped me, I was trying to be back with her from then (mid November) until she stopped talking to me one month ago (end of January) when she said that she "needed a break from talking to me." With that said, in the latter parts of our history, post breakup, I became increasingly ambivalent, concerned and more about trying to reconcile with her due to several interrelated factors that are concerned with a lack of change, lack of effort, deterioration in interaction, communication and trust, manipulation, controlling and dictating communication and a few others.

I think that I mentioned the following, but I am sorry if I did not already so. As history continued to unfold as we continued being in each other's lives, especially post breakup, she almost seemed to be revealing herself to be a different person from the person whom I dated. I almost did not recognize her in general (not just visually.)
It’s typical for manipulators to present different persona of themselves depending on the circumstances or on what is that they need from other people.

I worry that unless you work with a professional, you will end up with such a person again. It’s almost like you are refusing to see a reality, and are drawn to people who treat you badly. Most people I know would run away screaming and wouldn’t be worshipping such person. Mental health professional would help you explore origin of your low self esteem (perhaps family of origin played a role) and hopefully help you to never get involved with such people in the future
Thanks for this!
crushed_soul