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Originally Posted by crushed_soul
A many thanks for your post and question.
Currently, I am doing nothing and have not attempted anything since we last spoke one month ago; however, after she dumped me, I was trying to be back with her from then (mid November) until she stopped talking to me one month ago (end of January) when she said that she "needed a break from talking to me." With that said, in the latter parts of our history, post breakup, I became increasingly ambivalent, concerned and more about trying to reconcile with her due to several interrelated factors that are concerned with a lack of change, lack of effort, deterioration in interaction, communication and trust, manipulation, controlling and dictating communication and a few others.
I think that I mentioned the following, but I am sorry if I did not already so. As history continued to unfold as we continued being in each other's lives, especially post breakup, she almost seemed to be revealing herself to be a different person from the person whom I dated. I almost did not recognize her in general (not just visually.)
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It’s typical for manipulators to present different persona of themselves depending on the circumstances or on what is that they need from other people.
I worry that unless you work with a professional, you will end up with such a person again. It’s almost like you are refusing to see a reality, and are drawn to people who treat you badly. Most people I know would run away screaming and wouldn’t be worshipping such person. Mental health professional would help you explore origin of your low self esteem (perhaps family of origin played a role) and hopefully help you to never get involved with such people in the future