I’m a female in my late twenties. I’ve been dating a guy in his late twenties, too, for 5 months. I gave him a chance because he chased me for a month. I always talked to him but didnt make it official until a month later. I didnt see much in him at first and even thought about calling it off. He’s just a simple guy, average. I deal with mental illness. Schizoaffective and lots of anxiety and depression. He doesnt.

The relationship is actually pretty good. It started getting rocky slowly over the holidays for me. It was a mixture of the holidays and the winter season being so dark outside, id get sad a lot. Then in January we seriously started discussing moving in together, but not til mid 2018 or later, if everything keeps going well, since everything was so great since then.

Valentines was great. It was the best valentines ive ever experienced in my life. He brought me flowers, we spent the night at a hotel, he got me a promise ring and we had breakfast in the morning.

Fast forward to now: things are pretty much picture perfect. Yes weve had some disagreements/arguments but nothing that wasn’t resolved in the matter of a few min to an hour. I told him i saw him as The One. The one person in my life i could see myself spending the rest of my life with. He’s definitely my better half, is caring, hardworking, romantic, etc all the good stuff.

He said he wants to find that one person in his life, and that he hopes its me. But in that moment he didnt share the same feelings i was feeling for him. He didnt say he didnt but he also didnt say he did.

Am I overthinking this? Is it too early? He says its too early for him and i get that because i didnt see the value of him straight from the beginning. But it also did not take me long to realize it. Im wondering if im just a hopeless romantic in a way. I don’t exactly feel like i made a mistake telling him something this deep but it might have been. I just don’t understand why he would feel that we discuss seriously moving in together and him not have that same deep feeling.

He said hes happy with me, but also said he is unhappy when im unhappy (depressed) which is a lot of times.