Hi jmo,
I agree with apislily, the panic attacks don't make you a bad mother.
Panic attacks are horrible at any time, but we sometimes make it worse with moral thoughts like, "This shouldn't be happening." We get things all muddled up, at least that's how it was for me.
Once you can accept that this is an illness, and you're not a bad person because of it, life gets better.
Also I agree that there are strategies which are are effective, as well as medications. We can get through this stuff.
Cheers, Myzen