no appology necessary. You are very brave. I understand what you mean about the environment and norms of the time. Hindsight is always 20/20 - I'm glad your father was able to learn all that happened and understand. It sounds like you are doing your bit to change attitudes in that you are teaching your children to respect their bodies and to respect others. And to be careful around alcohol - young teens should really stay away from it. The longer a teen puts off drinking, hopefully, the less likely that something unfortunate will happen.

Even though the norms of that time did not recognize date rape or that an intoxicated teen is not able to consent .. it is still not your fault. You are innocent. That boy saw an opportunity and took it - he was wrong to do that.

I wish you peace