I think the milestones I want to meet are more guideposts. They're not linear so much as just goals, and even those aren't set in stone. They're not well-defined, but I don't think they have to be at this point--getting to know her personality and her lifestyle seem more important than rushing to get physical. Physical stuff can wait--there's always time for that later, but once that box is opened, it can't really be closed again.

As for who benefits, I would like to think we both do. It deepens the relationship beyond the temporal and the tawdry. There's no control; it's simply being allowed to flourish organically with no presumptive demands to be one thing or another. I have shared that analogy with her, and I think she gets it, knows the why behind the reasoning. We both have the same relationship goals.

It's strange about the concept of the wolf, too, because I can feel it moving, shifting, as it were. Part of me is fighting accepting that the wolf and I are one and the same, and that's the part of me that fears what that means. I dunno...that still requires some more thinking to work through it, but I have the outline, at least.