Hoping you and I share many 'issues' for want of a better word. I also have a strong mother and a husband who has controlled me at times.

I do like the suggestion of having a consistent response to any 'my way or the highway' ultimatums. One I used was "That is your opinion, mine differs". It took a lot of resolve from me to say that because I used to crumble in conflict (I still can just less frequently). This did help and he knows what I mean when I say that now.

I could write so much on this but how much would actually be helpful I don't know. What I do know is you certainly have character and courage but suspect you find some situations harder than others. You are kind and thoughtful, you do connect with us here and you are a good friend.