Tisha, yes, of course I want a healthy relationship. What are you saying here? That all relationships are dysfunctional so one must accept this and settle for less? I don't agree at all. No, of course no partner is ideal, but from what it sounds like, Hoping's husband is very controlling. Are you saying she should just put up with this and accept his controlling ways? I hope not. I've seen people with healthy relationships. They exist. Not all relationships are dysfuntional. And to accept dysfunction is doing a disservice to oneself and to one's mental health!

And this thread is not about me, it is about the OP. Let's make the focus on her, not me.