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mjw24 · Feb 20, 2018, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by TheDunce

Seems I'm always offending people or just in their way. Even on social media I feel rejected. I don't post on or check FB often as it is. Now whenever I check it I just get more depressed.

One acquaintance seemed angry with me after the holidays. I and another person commented on one of her posts. She liked and replied to the other person's comment but ignored mine. A few weeks later, I discovered she sent me some PM's during the holidays, so I "liked" them. I don't know yet if this has appeased her. I've sent PM's to people before and haven't gotten replies, but that doesn't change my attitude toward those people.

Also, a relative asked a question in a post recently and had lots of responses. I also shared. Then, the relative made a snide comment below mine and asked something like, "are you just a rebel?" I noticed then that all of the previous responses were dated on the previous day, so I guess he was telling me it was too late to take part. So sorry for sharing.

I noticed one friend was kind of snippy with me after I commented on some of her posts about the weather. A few days later, I realized it had been her B-day the last day I posted, so I sent her a belated B-day message which she thanked me for. But, the next time I was on FB there was a post, supposedly from FB that listed friends who were a good influence and those who were a bad influence, or something like that. My name appeared in the "bad" column. Another friend of hers whose name appeared in the "bad" column told her that was hurtful. She assured that person it didn't mean anything; she just wanted someone else, whose name was in the "good" column to see it. I didn't comment on it, but it really made me cry. I was already depressed, and it made me even more depressed. If she wanted only one person to see it, she could have changed the setting to allow only that person to view the post. How could someone not know that it would be hurtful to others? FB was very wrong to think something like that would be "fun" for everyone.

I don't have any close friends to begin with. Even on social media, I feel I'm better off just keeping to myself.

Maybe I'm just too sensitive.

That sucks feeling that way but I think you're only giving half the story. I'm not seeing anything where you say what you said specifically in any of your examples. People don't get angry just bc you're talking. It's the content of what ur saying. My advice would be to go back look at what you said in each instance and instead of thinking about how your reaction made you feel, think about how your comment made them feel. Step in their shoes. What kind of stuff did you say to warrant those reactions? It's not just happening bc the world is against you. You feel sad bc of what someone said to you? Well they most likely didn't just say it to say it. It's important for everyone to have insight into their own behavior. Once you know how what you're saying or when your saying it is affecting your audience, then you'll know why they say what they do. I'm not saying this as an attack at all. I just believe it to be real advice to make change that won't leave you so sad.