I't seriously does depend on whose fault it REALLY is & the fact that you do love him & that your issue is only with one aspect of your marriage THOUGH AN IMPORTANT one too.

It toik me 33 years of wan5ing to leave before it was possible & finally happened & one of his comments was "I thought you were going to tolerate me for the rest of our lives" When there are tons of issues & you realize you never loved the guy, a whole different picture ends up being painted.....though my blow ups & fighting never ended those whole 33 years....they subsided now & then but were always at the surface ready to explode when he pushed his screw-ups too far.

Yes, the boy who cried wolf was no longer listened to when the real wolf came along. Being real with our feelings doesnt always mean we have to express them in a dysfunctional way. We can learn better more mature ways of expressing what bothers the we have to learn new ways & practice....maybe that is why DBT was initially created for BPD.....though it works for all mental health issues even depression, anxiety & it helped with my PTSD.