FWIW this is an issue in the context of public online forums. Well, it is more likely many questions.

It is also not black and white because it can be the case, and often is, that there is simply some miscommunications going on or people happen to put different weight on things.

Getting back to the topic of this thread,

I am often perplexed by whether I am doing or not doing. Sometimes I simply cannot tell the difference. Maybe it is not always black and white.

About addictions, well there are common themes that arise in nicotine addiction. Every person will have there own themes but those themes and memes are often shared by many othe rpeople so one can learn to deal with nicotine demons from other people. That in the end is what enabled me to finally quit for good after many failures.

Of course what works for one person may or may not work for another.