I have been wild in my youth. I was so lonely. My first husband judged me. He was nice and easy going and kind for the most part. He didn't tell his family who lived overseas that we got married, he wouldn't discuss future economic plans even though I was in college with him and we got married early so he wouldn't be deported. I now have a relationship where we communicate about making love and we communicate about anything I want to or my partner does. I don't separate my life into compartments, my goal is to think and feel and be present in all parts of my life. I also don't want a partner that is wonderful in only one or two parts of my life. I love having someone who is respectful and gentle when he asks to talk about my business, my life. It is wonderful not to be put down.