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Originally Posted by DP_2017
My "love" feelings are not romantic/sexual but similar to how I feel about my dogs...or how some may feel for family/friends
I never wanted to tell him but something has come up that I am really struggling with, emotionally and I'm not sure any other way to explain all this intense emotional reaction....
but I don't wanna spoke him or risk termination etc..... I am so unsure of what to do. Anyone else ever said ILY to their T and it wasn't a romantic thing? did they react ok?
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My sense from past events is that he is going to believe you have romantic feelings toward him, either conscious, unconscious, or sub conscious. There is nothing wrong with it being romantic either.
Many times platonic love goes unspoken, agape is abstract etc. The vast majority of the time adults say ILY to people not in their families is romantic.
Obviously not always. . . but your T seems to have been on this wavelength with you before from the discussion of touch.
I really don't have a sense if this is risky or not because I don't have too much therapy experience. My T is very different from yours in boundaries too.
I love the comment that surgeons shouldn't be afraid of blood and T's shouldn't be afraid of feelings.
I think the question T's ask themselves if is those feelings get in the way of treatment, are neutral to treatment, or help in treatment.