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LadyShadow · Feb 21, 2018, 05:20 PM

Thank you to everyone who left something for me here on this thread. I unbelievably grateful, and I think everyone needs their own special response from me.

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Originally Posted by hopeless2015

I'm so sorry your going through this. That's so HARD. I'm sending big hugs to you. Just know that we are all here for you!!

Thank you so much for this. I know how wonderful everyone is here, and how supportive this community is. It really is HARD, and when you go through something like this, sometimes all you need is some support to get you through it. Thank you for your hugs!

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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

(((((( LadyShadow ))))))

Thinking of you.

WC

((((Wild Coyote))) (I was given a limit of smileys to use, BOO!)

Thank you for always thinking of me, and going out of your way to answer my threads. You have become so valuable to me with your input, for what seems like years now, on and off. I am so grateful!!

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Originally Posted by Fharraige

(((((LadyShadow)))))

It's hard when a parent just gives up like that.

Lots of prayers and love for you and your family, especially your mom.

I know Fhrarraige, it was SO hard for me to see her give up on herself, I couldn't do it, I mean I just couldn't, I couldn't stand to hear it, it broke my heart so much and I just broke down under a mountain of tears. She needs my strength now, so I am going to be strong for her, even if she can't right now. Thank you so much for your love and prayers, I truly appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying

I'm sorry Ladyshadow--she's your mom so it's hard but please keep in mind that if it is not morning where you are if she manages to get a good night of sleep--she might suddenly feel a bit better in the morning. Someone I know was just put in hospice then, suddenly, one morning she had an appetite and then 2 days later she is doing so much better. The later in the day it gets--the worse you feel--the weaker you feel. Of course I don't know what is in store for your mom but sometimes you have to ride it out. Also, maybe google her meds--sometimes meds side effects and interactions cause so much harm. Obviously, if you see a concern, talk to the pharmacist/doc but I would check if there has been any changes in her meds....

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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying

And just leave messages. That is all you can do if no one is picking up.

Take little breaks if you can. When my mom was sick we took turns sleeping in the bed with her. Just because she thinks she is going to die today--does not mean it will happen. That she is able to talk is a hopeful sign.

Thank you so much Hopingtrying, for BOTH your wonderful, caring messages. She is resting now, so the worst is over, I stepped in and fought hard for her, and got her an appointment for next week, (rather than their next available, April 25th appointment). I fought tooth and nail, on the phone what seemed like hours, talking to supervisors and doctors, pushing hard, using all the skills I know to get her in there. Thank the God above that I prevailed, and all that's left is to hold out till next week's appointment.

Your advice and thoughts were right on point, and extremely helpful, because you're right, she was in a total panic, dramatic mode, and now that I sat and spent time with her, she was able to drift off and get some much needed rest. Also, I kept my own needs in mind, and spent a wonderful hour sitting outside, in the amazing 66 degree weather we had today, and enjoying the sun, praying, and being incredibly grateful for all I have.

So thank you all, I made it through what seemed to be at the time a total nightmare.