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I was selfish and sneaky when I got tested on chlamydia and did not even mention it. And I was careless about STDs in my past...
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Neither of those is a betrayal of trust for him.
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The way he found out about my past... how I was talking about it... stammering... often giving answers that would make him feel as if he had to double check. (Ok, she said x, now does that include y?)
I did lie to him. He asked me weither there was anything left I would be afraid or hesitant to tell him. Next day I confessed one more thing.
The day he gave me the key for his flat I lied to him and he asked it back and wanted to leave me. It was an unasssary lie. He asked me what a doctor had said about one of the STD I got tested on. I wish I had said: "Don't get this wrong. I feel hesitant to tell you, because I don't want you to think that I am using that doctor's opinion as an excuse. And I don't want to hurt you. But she was playing down how important it was to get tested on that particula STD." Instead I said: "Sorry, I can't recal at the moment".
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Why do people lie or be sneaky? Often, they lie because they fear the response if they were to tell the truth. I wonder if that applies to you.
If he were loving and kind to you, and accepted you as you, a person to be loved not interrogated or insulted or called hurtful names or shamed, it would have been much easier for you to tell the truth immediately.
Personally, I think that none of your sexual past is any of his business to begin with.
