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Originally Posted by Bill3
Neither of those is a betrayal of trust for him.
Why do people lie or be sneaky? Often, they lie because they fear the response if they were to tell the truth. I wonder if that applies to you.
If he were loving and kind to you, and accepted you as you, a person to be loved not interrogated or insulted or called hurtful names or shamed, it would have been much easier for you to tell the truth immediately.
Personally, I think that none of your sexual past is any of his business to begin with.
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Thank you so much! That is very true! For both of us. Because he has told me many times that he would never ever have fallen for me had he known about my past. And yes, that was why I was avoiding the topic... which resulted in dragging it out over monthes... and which led him to conclude that I was betraying him all along not being honest. Not taking responsibilty for my past e.g. by getting tested before we were intimate.
I don't see how I could explain this to him without being confronted with my sick and unmoral past. But it is very true.