My husband and I generally get a long but we have been clashing. I am self sufficient and very stubborn. Husband is stubborn too but he thinks you need to ask for help or rely on help from others. I told him if I need it I'll ask for it...reluctantly. He tried de icing the car but it was taking too long and I was upset that he was doing it. I had not asked him to do this and can de.ice my own car. Fought so loud a d the neighbors heard (lesson learned to keep it down but now I'm a afraid the cops are looking for me....I was on the way to work by the time they checked on my husband....I don't want that to happen to either of us again, so we need help). There aren't any physical altercations....it's more of shouting match. I know he was trying to be nice but every time I say "Dear, I can get it myself" he says I'm being ungrateful and should be thankful that he's doing me such a favor. Uh, what about your honey do list to keep you busy? He has one since he works weekends. And he's untouchable. He fell asleep at my grandfather's birthday party and I shot him a look. I always.make sure I am on my.best behavior at his family functions....even for his dad's horrid girlfriend. What does my husband do at mine? Whip the IPad out, tell his mother in law his wife bought his coat took small in front of his wife and fell asleep at her grandfather's birthday party. And he gets away with it. He didn't get the IPad out at the birthday party so I will give him that but falling alseep.....And he got away with it. I get so frustrated because I really try to be on my best at his family functions. I try telling him why I didn't want him doing that and He gets defensive. We can't have a conversation about this with the other person getting upset and it turning into a shouting match. I have considered taking him to my therapist ad we are both have ASD and hopefully learn to communicate better. I tell him this and he refused, saying he didn't have a problem and there was no reason for him to go. I really do want to keep him and I know most of this is my fault (I just have problems accepting help and asking for it....that part isn't him, it's me). I know this is my fault and I'm a terrible wife but I want it to stop as much as he does. Any advice to keep both of us sane would be great. Thanks and sorry for the rant.



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