Mine shared almost everything personal going on in his life. I was there to listen and give support when he was having similar feelings of negative self worth to mine that were driven by his (ex) wife. He used to tell me about incidents with other clients (no names) that he felt he mishandled. We both knew what each other's weekend plans were most of the time. We even swapped pictures of our kids.

In hindsight, I think that this set me up to get hurt because what happens when they change their mind and pull back and tell you they need space? I thought I was useful to him and that helped me trust him...now I feel worthless as far as he's concerned.

I don't think I will ever trust another T who lets me be a part of his life like that.