My T discloses very little about herself. What she has disclosed has been more random tidbits about herself. They have helped in keeping her a person and not just the role. They give me a basis in separating her from me.

I don't think knowing about her struggles in life (no matter how minor) would be helpful for me because I would worry about her, I would turn my focus towards her, I would want to take care of her and solve the issues. So yeah, they would be a major distraction for me and add to my paradigm of who I am/should be in a relationship. My interactions with my T are the only time in my life that things are completely and solely focused on me. I hated that in the beginning. Now I count on it. I need everything that goes on between us to be seen, discussed, and processed complete as my experience. I have discounted, deferred, minimized, and invalidated my experiences too much in my life. It is taking a lot for me to accept that my experiences are just, valid, acceptable, and can be honored/respected. I'm still not there.