Thank you so much everyone!!! Great article Bee!

I've gotten some insight after reading here and when we hung out last night. He's nervous about the move! He didn't say it so many words, well he said he's stressed about getting everything packed. Which I had to hold back my laughing, because he could pack his place in a day....I have so much stuff and I haven't even started lol. We've known the move was a definite in October, when we talked to my apartments about moving into a two bedroom. We started talking about eventually moving in together when we first fell in love. Its just so close now that I know thats a big part of it.

Plus, he just started an intensive year school for a masters in psychology. Thats a huge change. Plus, I just started working, thats a huge change. Plus, his office is also moving offices the same time we move in together. Plus, he already has an anxiety disorder. Plus, he already has confidence issues. So......there's a LOT to consider here.

He hasn't lived with a girlfriend either. His last relationship that was serious, they were engaged but hadn't moved in together yet. Then she moved to Pheonix and they tried a long distance thing. Then she broke up with him. He was married a long time ago, and thats the last woman he lived with. That was over ten years ago.

So there's a lot to consider! He's been different though, in the way he kisses me....when he leaves he gives me a long deep kiss and holds me tight. So I have no doubts for the way he feels about me, I just have to look at the big picture, all the changes, the big step we're taking. We're both nervous of course, but very excited as well.

So I think this little snag in our sex life is pretty easily understood now, now that I've posted it and your replies have helped me look at our lives and see what might be causing it.

I love him, no matter what, no matter how often we have sex. If things don't get better in that arena after we move in, I'll think about suggesting counceling. Until then I'll be supportive, and I plan on asking him if there's anything he wants to talk about before the move, if there's anything I can do to reduce the stress.

Thank you all for helping in my journey. I'm about to embark on an adventure!


Rayna

PS - Men, if you have any insight but don't feel comfortable sharing in public, a pm is welcomed.