The two recent ones disclosed more that I was interested in knowing. I never knew why the woman told me what she did about herself - I never found the information useful or even relevant to what I was talking about. She once got all pissy because I would not ask her about some leg/foot thing she had going on.

I figure if she had wanted me to know - she would tell me so I did not ask. She has a husband and sons and for all I know -even friends to deal with her personally. It was not my job. It had nothing to do with me at all. I did not wish her ill -but for me to act otherwise would have seemed to me to be intrusive on something that was not mine upon which to intrude.


Mostly, when they try to tell me about some struggle or whatever that they dealt with and how they handled it, my response is "it isn't like I think oh that woman did X so I should/can/ what ever." I don't find how therapists live to be awesome or try to emulate them or use them as a basis for choices I make. I don't hold them up as an ideal. I don't think they make better choices than I do nor do I look to them for advice on how to be.