Then why does she tell you about her own issues? Does not really compute to me except that she does it for herself and then wants you to deal with it on your own.

My last T talked about himself quite a lot, usually in the context of what I brought up and as a reflection to that, but sometimes it would go on all sorts of tangents and I had to stop him. It wasn't about his mental health though and never very detailed, probably the most abundant topic was related to his career and different experiences. He did share with me a chronic physical health issue and surgery due to that when I was not even seeing him in sessions anymore. Initially, and for a good while, I liked that he shared a lot of things and usually they were similar to my experiences. With time though, I realized it was his way of reacting and reflecting instead of following up my stuff and digging into that more deeply, so in this sense it interfered with my therapy. I liked the guy a lot and always felt like equals with him, but never really had a desire to care for him and his problems and told him so after a while. Then he tuned it down.

My first T uses the public internet to talk about himself a lot so I got to know a lot about him looking at that info.

I actually never wanted to actively hear much personal stuff about them in session and rarely asked personal questions, the info came mostly from passively listening to it and looking up online.