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Originally Posted by Coming up tails
I keep forgetting to say that your T saying that txt was intrusive was a ****** thing to say. You kept on topic of what is allowed (scheduling stuff) and it was within the appropriate time frame. Maybe he needs a work phone if he cant control leaving his ph alone if he doesnt want to be intruded upon 
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Thanks. I think he was just trying to follow through on his promise to be up front with me instead of waiting till it was way too much. But it still hurt. I think what may have crossed the intrusive line is that I sent initial text around 9, requesting call, then at 9:30 texted “please?” Because I was in distress and knew 10 was his cutoff. But he didn’t specify that so maybe it was just texting at night in general? It’s just, he knows I’m sensitive about outside contact stuff because of what recently happened with MC. And “intrusive” is a rather triggering word for me..but he had no way of knowing that. Still he could have worded it differently, like “in the future, just email me if it’s after x time.”
I’m just scared that I thought I was following the rules (and he recently said I was doing fine with respecting his boundaries, even though I was worried). So If I was trying to follow rules and crossed line, after only 5 months, while with Ex-T and MC took years...of course I’m worried I’ll screw up and get terminated. I mean, he said he wasn’t mad and it was OK, but...clearly this is something I need to discuss with him more.