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Old Feb 22, 2018, 08:36 PM
tevelygo tevelygo is offline
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Originally Posted by md2299 View Post
But for the time being, when he blows off on my mother, like today he walked off in the morning and threatened to not come back(he’s done a lot of these, he always comes back, proceeds to scream and scream at my mother for an hour or two, regains calm and acts like nothing happened from the next day, until he does it again) it really affects me badly. Like I had this great study rhythm going with the revision and everything and now I haven’t been able to concentrate for the last 3 hours. And I live in India and the education system is well, not that pedagogically superior like that in the USA or UK, and here the score on the entry exam is the final word on whether you get into med school or not(no interviews or essays are taken). So the score is paramount. Since the exam is just in a couple months, and you can’t retake it for another year, I really need to focus. Because if I do not get a top score, I probably won’t get a college in the city I want and I am dead scared of having to go to a college in my hometown and live under this tyrannical man’s roof. But even then I find it so hard to concentrate after he creates these periodic(twice a month approx) scenes. So, I have two months left to go, I’ve made it pretty well this far, but now I need help. Can you guys suggest some ways I can stop going into flashbacks and focus on my study? Like block it out temporarily? Just for two months? Thanks. And thanks for reading this loooooong thing.
By default I'd just say - Think of how you won't let this man ruin your life. That means getting angry enough to be able to block out the ****. Not overly angry beyond that though. Just sort of self-assertion. That's how it works for me sometimes at least - I hope this made sense.

Flashbacks... sounds strongly traumatic. Read up on how PTSD people handle their emotions?

Good luck!