I guess what I want to say, LT, is that I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of. Sure, at the end of the day, your T has to be clear about his feelings and boundaries, because the only way this really works is if the T's feelings and boundaries are condusive to it as well. (No T can or should force themselves to be comfortable with deep attachment work; it won't work.) It just hurts my heart, because I can't help but think how I'd feel if C said those things to me... and because I also know he wouldn't (or at least not most of them; he's told me I've frustrated him...actually, i think he said annoyed...I've definitely annoyed him, and that was really really hard for me) Anyways, point is that I know there are Ts who would absolutely do the kind of work with you that your'e looking for, so it hurts my heart for you some to see this T who I know you're already attached to maybe not knowing much about attachment work. I want a really really solid attachment work T for you, because I know that shame storm, and I also know it's undeserved -- your needs aren't shameful. Missing your T isn't shameful. Needing him isn't shameful. Reaching out and saying "please be there" isn't shameful or bad or wrong.