I am sure there is someone in this world whi would have the patience & tolerance & skills to continue dealung with the dysfunction that existed in my marriage BUT the reality for me was that after 33 years enough was too much. Some things build up over the years rather than grow to tolerate. We are all different in how quickly it happens ir if it happens.

A lot of variables go into decisions to be finally able to leave. Even after I left it has taken me 10 years for it to be financially feasible to finally file for the divorce because of the financial mess he made when I was too sick to deal with ut & he was incapable. There are so many variables involved in everyone's individual lives that are impossibke to see from the outside of the marriage. Even the kids don't see the details most times