Hey everyone!

I was having some issues the past few days, but since things have calmed down at home and my mom is feeling a bit better, I have been able to reconnect with my friends, you know to be social, and get my head out of the box of responsibility for a while.

However.....

I have these two friends, both women, who I had known years ago. We all had crossed each other's path during the long road of mental health recovery and self-care, and knew each other either in the Day Program I had attended or the Hospitalization I had years ago. They have both come in and out of my life at one time or another, and i finally made a solid reconnection with both of them in recent weeks.

Here is the problem, (or what seems odd about what I am feeling):

Friend 1; We got together, had lunch, caught up with each other and reminisced about the old days and how far we have come. We laughed, bonded and had a great time. A week later I get a call from a number I don't recognize, so I don't answer. It was my friend's boyfriend who called, then left a message, followed by a text: Hi this is (Friend 1's) boyfriend, I would like to meet you, she says great things about you. I thought aww...cute, but I had a weird feeling about contacting her boyfriend directly so I didn't call him back, it just felt off...and I don't know why. (I haven't heard from Friend 1 at all, so it makes me wonder even more).

Friend 2: We just reconnected on Facebook, and I was SO happy to hear from her. It was great catching up through messanger, and the same deal reminiscing and sharing stories. Then....I get a friend request from her husband, and then a message; I am (Friend 2's) husband, nice to meet you. I didn't accept his request, and honestly I feel a little dumbfounded about the whole thing.

I guess the point of this VERY long drawn out post is, do you think there is something odd about this? I mean Friend 1 hasn't contacted me, (I did leave her a message on Tuesday, but I never called back her boyfriend), and Friend 2 made no mention that her husband was going to contact me.

I don't know about you guys, but I find this REALLY worrying and a strange. Like when the hell did it become okay to like randomly reach out to your woman's friends? I mean I don't think their intention is to get with me, not at all, but more like to somehow be in control who their woman is talking to? I mean I may be TOTALLY jumping the gun here, but it really feels like the "control" type vibe I am getting. I mean what happened to boundaries? Can't a woman be in a friendship without her guy totally butting himself in?

I haven't spoke to either friend about it yet, but I honestly don't even KNOW how to approach it at all with either one of them. I mean my first instinct was, awww, that's sweet her guy is taking an interest in his partner's friends. But the more I thought about it, I thought to myself, no, there is something wrong there.

I don't know, and I am really confused. Does anyone have any thoughts on this, or have been through anything similar? (By the way, it worries me that Friend 1 never contacted me again after I didn't answer her boyfriend. Is my mind going crazy for thinking maybe he told her to stay away from me because I didn't call him back?) I am probably spinning and speculating I know, but I just sitting here in wonder about it.

Any help or thoughts would be appreciated.