Thanks much for continuing to read, emphasize, input and for telling your story about your friend.

Before I reply to your latest post, I forgot to respond to your statements about cosigning the loan and her using that against me in your post before your latest one. Even when she said that to me, I think that it dawned upon me how she would do as you described in causing me to “be responsible for all her debt that she had, even before we met.” Moreover, the proposal to cosign the emergency loan was the first step towards that objective and/action. In her request to cosign the loan, she was already indirectly asking me to pay her debt.

Yeah, that seems to be a question that will remain undisclosed (because she is probably the only person to be able to disclose if she did/does or not.)

I respect you for being her friend, and being aware of how she is, despite and she is. There seems to be plenty of people as you described. I had and probably still have friends like that, although I decided that some of those people were not my friends (due to a combination of circumstances.)

As you said, people are responsible for their behavior. Moreover, they choose to be how they are (and are not) and to change (or not.) Likewise, others choose to be friends (or not) with them (for how ever long.) In doing so, others are responsible in their decisions as well... oh, relationships...

Unless she were to change, acknowledge how she were to be (and not to be,) accept responsibility (in her behavior, actions, and on,) a combination of the aforesaid factors and/or whatever else, yeah, I share your perspective about if we were to still be in each other's lives... I think that is what I increasingly came to learn, acknowledge and understand (to a degree.)

Without change (in behavior,) consciousness (of behavior, actions and so forth,) willingness to change, responsibility (in behavior, actions and so on,) and so forth, the relationship would continue to be as it was, no matter what and how I would try in general and try to change whatever specifically (e.g. my behavior, attempts in communication, not accepting her terms, and so on.)

As you so astutely said, "relationships are give and take.” Additionally, “people treat you how you teach them to treat you.” Evidently, as we mentioned, she overwhelmingly took. When she was aware that could no longer take (seemingly my money) in general, the correlation was that she dumped me. (I am not claiming that it was only due to money, using me and so forth.) I both allowed and accepted for her to treat me as she did (and did not.) I am responsible for allowing and accepting such conditions.

Have a terrific Friday night.