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Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch
Odd. Odd. Odd.
Sounds like they both thought that possibly you're a guy that she's having a fling with and was trying to catch her out.
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It is odd, and someone did mention to me that same exact idea. Somehow, may both their partners think my freinds are having an affair/fling and are using me as an excuse or they straight up don't believe i am a woman and a freind at all.
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Originally Posted by Talthybius
I am surprised people think this is odd or suspicious. But then again, I don't know anything. I think after meeting them in person, it is not strange to send a Facebook invite, right? Or to have each other's phone number? I agree it is a bit odd that they immediately contact you after they know about your existence. But why does it have to be negative?
Overall, the negative view of men is also shocking to me. Not saying it is correct. I am naive after all. It is just unnerving to see people warn others about men who haven't done anything but send a message, as I am a male and females may have all kinds of reservations about me because I am male too.
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Look, it is my fault for not fully articulating my thoughts here. I actually wrote this all out in my blog and I basically ADMITTED to myself that all this speculating of the worst behavior, could be completely wrong. Friend 1's boyfriend did call and say, "Friend 1 had some really nice things to say about you, and I would like to meet you." But I would like to make a point that he did not say "let's all get together soon," instead of "I would like to meet you.' Again, speculation though.
To clear up a few things here, from what I read in your post, that you were asking if contacting a friend of your partner after meeting them is okay, right? Of course it is! That's the point I am trying to make with all of this. THEY NEVER MET ME, they just heard of me, and took it upon themselves to contact me, completely bypassing both of my friends. I am in no way bashing or man-hating, but can I ask a simple question to you, as a man, would you ever contact a friend of someone you are dating? I mean like just took it upon yourself to butt in on their friendship?
I understand that you feel men are being put in a negative light here, and that it was "just a message," but my POINT is there seems to be no boundaries here whatsoever. To just step in, snoop and do whatever you want. I really want to sit here and blame my friends for this in a way, because they absolutely didn't warn me that their guys were going to contact me. But what if they didn't know?
So many questions here, and when i think about it more and more, I so feel like throwing in the towel and walk away completely.