"Let the dead bury the dead."

How's that for a morally-framed response? The past is dead and buried. You can continually re-invent yourself until you hit the right combination that allows you to feel good about who you are and where you're going.

Moving out can be a huge stressor. You're stepping into the unknown. But it doesn't have to be scary. You can re-frame it in your own mind. By re-framing it, you're taking away it's power over you. "Moving out is scary!" changes to, "Hey, this can be a great opportunity for me!" Yeah, it takes practice and you won't get it right away, but it does help if you keep at it.

Past crush? Social Status? The Future?

Elaborate, please!


lol I tease, but I figured you needed a smile.

Don't worry too much about the past. Nothing you can do to change it. All that matters is the here and now. Reframing things in your mind will help you contextualize things and put it into perspective. Moving out, for instance. That could be exciting--new place! New friends! New things to see and do! The fear will always be there to pick up when you want, but if you set it aside for the time being, you'll discover that you have an amazing ability to change your mood by simply changing how you actively think about something. And any time the fear comes back, be gentle. Just remind yourself that it is momentary, and it will pass. Let it wash over you like wind over a field of grass and pass you by. When it's gone, you'll still be standing there and the fear will be nowhere to be seen.