I know - but really, to say it is our fault is to undermine the situation - yes? Yes, we are the ones who did the act of self injury, but the reason behind it is ____________. Dealing in a way with pain that couldn't be dealt with another way. Is that our fault? It is a dicey subject, I understand fully.

No worries on the fish - I won't poach them =) I keep checking their little thermometors on the tanks. They're suppose to be 72 instead of the 66 they are currently. =( poor little fishes.