I think you sound like a really nice person, warm, curious, and gentle. I think there is a way to discuss anything and still remain loving, happy, and respectful. Life is good when getting to know someone and talking about the future are not a drama, just a time of seeing who each other are. The biggest change in my life is I have a partner who never blames me for making him feel anything and I take responsibility for my feelings as well. My last partner blamed me for him finding a mistress and for leaving me for her. My mom blamed me for her being an alcoholic. I thought it was my responsibility to find a way to understand and to change myself, so I could live with other people's unhappiness. Life is so nice now that I can just cry and walk away when someone is mean.