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Originally Posted by blubbbrabbel
Yes, that list of his on things I said in arguments seems unhealthy to me. But it is nothing but his desperate attempt to adapt to my unspoken needs. I never speak up. I shy away from conflicts and always have. He knows that.
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This is an example of mind-reading, a type of cognitive distortion. What if you are wrong about his motivation? There are many other examples of this, as well as other types of cognitive errors that CBT can be helpful in identifying and dealing with.
What if he is not as connected to you as you think he is?