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Maybe the Puerto Rican rum is dulling my intellect but I don't get how a T can HOPE to help a patient in this way. Please explain it to me! How does knowing that your are a superficial %#@&#! and that your marriage is %#@&#! help anything? If you were a T and you suspected your patient was struggling and you recommended a treatment approach that would likely result in an adverse response,..Wouldn't you be ethically bound to help them prepare for it??

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No one knows what's lurking in your unconscious and how you are going to choose to respond to it. I once got a splinter in my finger, oddly enough, from my Group T's home doorframe. The next week it was infected, and I had to go to the hospital (I didn't have a doctor, this is in the late 70's) and they literally "operated" on it to get the splinter out and clean up the mess. That's what therapy does; if you don't notice/bring up the literal splinters then you can't fix the problem.

But no one, including you, obviously, knew what the problems were or where they were. Your T suggests things in hope that something hits the nerve, tells her where it hurts? That's why you're supposed to talk about it with her because you AREN'T a "superficial %#@&#!" and if your marriage is %#@&#! then it's better to know that than not to! If you're getting blind-sided by the %#@&#! you need to see that it is there. That's all, not to judge it but just to see it, is all a T hopes for.