Jess, if I remember correctly didn't you just post a very short time ago that you were suicidal and were lamenting how you couldn't get into a hospital. Take this time to work on you. Going back into this relationship when you've both had such a short time of sobriety just has disaster written all over it. Don't give up your family for a relationship that doesn't seem to have a lot going for it. You are just 25 and will do what you will do, so give it lots of thought. You need less drama, not more if you have BPD.