In listening to all of you and thinking about it, I realize it would be a really dumb thing to do. Last year I consulted with a lawyer just to try to get a different placement in order to get away from my current principal, and even with all of the crazy things that had happened, I was told that it would be my word against hers, so it probably would not happen and cause me more trouble in the long run-so much for accommodations! She did back off some after I came back from my last hospital stay. I know officially HR isn't supposed to tell your immediate supervisor any information under the family medical leave act and that might not have happened, but there is one teacher who knows my diagnosis because her father and I see some of the same providers, and juicy news travels fast. I found out recently that the principal had questioned her about how I was doing at that time, so I think she got tricked into sharing some things about me.
All of this is why I need to get out. Once they know your diagnosis, there is no peace!
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