that "it will be all right" sometimes just isn't enough. that to the person suffering the anxiety, it's a real genuin fear- no matter how stupid it is to the loved one, it's real to them and they need to support them

also that people don't always know why something makes them anxious, and they should respect that

using me as an example, I'm agoraphobic

I know I am agoraphobic, and I know I can't go outside, but why, I don't know. is it the air?. the crowds?. the new setting?. I don't know.

people need to take all factors in to account of why someone might be anxious about something is what I'm saying

just recently I revealed to someone I trusted (or thought i trusted) that I was worried that a certain person would abuse me

their response was just

no...... they won't

I think to them it's like.. well that's really helpfull, but to the actual sufferer that's like saying to them well... it's okay to go in the elevator, it's not going to get stuck

it's asuring nothing