then dont do this.... no Im not saying this to be mean. just that if you reread your posts you will notice the more you focus on your problems the more things bother you.

let me give you an example...

i recently had the flu. I was fine with having the flu..... I took my tamaflu, lots of bed rest, lots of fluids, my wife kept the household and children and I got served in bed my small meals in the form of snacks that I could keep down...

But

the moment I turned on the tv and heard all about how many affected in the worst ways with this flu epidemic america is going through this flu season, I started focusing on my flu. suddenly I felt worse, like I could not go on, when will this flu stop, omg Im having more and more problems with this on and on and on. soon I wasnt only worried and stressed out about the flu but also my mental and other physical health problems..finally I said to my wife and doctor I cant do this any more when is it going to stop

their answer ....

if you cant do it anymore then dont do it any more.

if focusing on your problems is causing you distress dont do it any more. go about your day like before you turned on the tv, leave the figuring things out alone.

sometimes doing nothing is what fixes problems not going all out stressing yourself out, trying to fix everything.

my wife removed the tv from the bedroom, and in its place were fun books......comedies, romance, sci fi.... nothing to do with my work, my mental or physical health problems. just back to basics, even some playdoh, coloring books....

with in a few hours I was back to feeling better mentally and physically.

now I am giving you the same great advice given to me........

when you feel like you cant do it anymore then dont do it. bottom line is when you are feeling this way honor that feeling.... its the brains way to say stop, stopping what ever you are doing right now because you are focusing on the wrong things....

go back to just working your new job, go back to how and what you were doing. if you reread your posts you will see where things started on the wrong track for you....

you went away to work, when you got back on here you had some great positive postings on how good things were going for you, but then your posts declined as you focused more on your problems.... now you are posting you cant do it any more....

so if you cant do it anymore then dont do it any more go back to seeing the positives and not focusing on the problems. your problems will take care of their self.