Sometimes I email about an insight, or something I forgot to tell him, something that feels important and feels like it would be very hard to sit on until the next session. Sometimes I email because I am distressed (unable or barely able to function normally).

If you have a good relationship with your T while you're in session, it can be nice to know she's still there and knows what's going on with you. It's not that she will have any magic words, but you may feel connected to her a bit more. I think contacting her earlier, before you potentially get to a desperate state, is the better thing to do. I think a lot of clients worry about bothering their T but many of them view out of session contact as truly just part of their jobs.

If you do get to a desperate state where you feel like not being here anymore, it may be that most of you is ready to go but a part of you wants to stay, and that part of you may reach out to her I hope, should things ever feel that bad.