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Originally Posted by Patagonia
Agent Misty
I was thinking about the dilemma you stated above. You said:
“sometimes people can come up with ideas/solutions that wouldn’t even apply to themselves in an effort to try to give someone else an idea of what route they could take.”
And this made me think of what I was taught in school. I was taught to seek advice from family, but also the clergy. And many times I did go to my church leaders looking for advice on marriage, communication, family & child rearing etc & now I think wow they had NO experience, but always told me what path to take based on a book & teachings. Yet this person in the clergy clearly didn’t have the experience.
So this person I’ve currently gotten advice from is maybe similar to someone in the religious life..?? Not experienced in their own lives in certain areas, but refer to a higher power for answers.
Idk it makes me second guess every single thing I do, every small decision & every word from my mouth bec I just don’t know anything anymore
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I was never taught about seeking advice and from whom at all. Nothing like that was ever said in my upbringing. I was taught right from wrong by my mother, as time went by, as situations occurred, or as I watched things unfold for others in my family or friends.
I was taught to trust my own instincts. I was taught that nobody knows more than I do, deep down, like clergy. Pshaw! Every person of stature turned out to be a fraud! My mother was very vocal about that. I guess it unleashed with Nixon and The Beatles, and that’s how I was raised.
So, the advice I feel that I can give is only on subjects that I feel competent, of course. It is either through my mother’s teachings, or from what I’ve learned from seeing for myself.
I love getting advice from others, and everybody loves to give advice. But, I never thought about if that person is giving good advice because they are successfully living their own advice.
Maybe there’s a type of intelligence, ‘people smarts’. I have a good sense if I do X, then Y will happen. I’m not sure how I learned human nature so well.