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Old Feb 26, 2018, 10:13 AM
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Originally Posted by seesaw View Post
I find this an interesting thread. I have often received advice from people who had no clue what they were talking about. First, if it's unsolicited advice, I just say thanks and move on. Try to cut off the conversation quickly because there's nothing more I hate than getting advice I didn't ask for. If I need help, I will ask. Otherwise, don't assume I do and start telling me all your worldly wisdom...especially when the person typically doesn't know any of the details of what I'm dealing with and their advice is moot.


BUT, when I do seek advice, I don't mind if the person has no experience in what I'm dealing with. I take it with a grain of salt and also remember that it's advice, I can take it or leave it. If it seems relevant to me, then I can choose to try it or not. I've learned that even someone who hasn't experienced my problem, may have experienced something else, and they may have a unique viewpoint that could help me figure out how to do something. So maybe their advice has an indirect effect on my solution. Like if I'm looking for a job and someone who has never been employed gives me advice, yeah, what do they know? But they are still a person with common sense and good ideas. Maybe it's a good idea to consider?


I think, in the end, you have to consider all the advice and decide what's best for you. I don't think that someone's whole life experience should discount that they may have a good or new perspective for you to consider on something.


On the other hand, there are some people who have no business giving advice. Lol.


I don't know if this ramble made any sense.


Seesaw


Thanks seesaw
Your ramblings make sense to me. I don’t want unsolicited advice either which I think is why I don’t say very much irl. In fact, irl I don’t really talk to anyone. I talk to my kids when their home & talk to my SO about the day, schedules & on the surface life stuff. That’s it. Deep conversations r out of the question. So I keep to myself. I hate to socialize. Hate to visit my family which very much likes to get into my business, ask probing questions I don’t answer, offer advice I don’t care for & label it as “caring.” My views are not valued so I stay quiet. It works.
I used to value the advice of my family, but there’s too many things I disagree with. Nobody in my family understands me or really cares to bec I don’t hold their values or ethics. Mine r just seen as wrong. So that well has dried up. And I don’t trust myself.
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